Recently in our area, a woman was found dead in her home, and her estranged husband is charged with the murder. I had the privilege of working with her family, and it’s absolutely heartbreaking what’s happened. Unfortunately, you hear stories like this all the time in the news, but it doesn’t feel the same as when you knew them personally. Below is a list of some practical tips you can use to help protect yourself. Share them with your friends, your wife, your kids, and make sure you always have a plan. If someone puts their hands on you, your job is to survive. Take some self-defense classes, learn to use a knife, anything…just keep you and your family safe.
- If someone ever demands your money, give it to him. Just don’t hand it to him. Take your wallet, throw it one way, and you run the other direction. If he has a gun, do the same. He probably doesn’t want to shoot you, just scare you. Run away fast in a zig-zag pattern. Even if he does try and shoot you, chances are that he will miss, or not hit you in a place that will kill you.
- If you are ever thrown into the back of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arms through and wave like crazy. The driver wont see you, but other drivers will.
- People have the tendency to get in their cars and just sit… after work, hanging out, or shopping. They make lists, text, do their checkbook. DON’T DO THIS. If a predator is watching you, this is the perfect time for him to get in the passenger seat beside you, put a gun to your head, and tell you to drive off. So, as soon as you get in your car, lock the doors and go.
- If you are ever in your car and someone does put a gun to your head, do not take them where they want to go. If you do, the likelihood that you will survive is very low. Gun the engine and run into a wall or something solid as fast as you can. If the predator is in the back seat, he will get the worst of it. The airbag will save your life, and then crawl out of the car and get help.
- Regarding parking garages, always look around before you approach your vehicle. If you car is parked next to a large van, get in your car through the passenger side. Many victims are abducted this way, where the predator waits for them to get into their car, and grabs them quickly. Also, look to see if there is a person sitting in the car next to you for the same reason. If you feel nervous or concerned, never feel ashamed of asking for someone to escort you to your vehicle.
These are great ways to understand how to be safe, but what happens if someone does grab you? What if you are attacked, in a parking lot, in your car, or in your home? Can you defend yourself? Attending a class is the first step, but then continuing to train and build the muscle memory is key, so that you are prepared. Learn to operate under the principle that you will use whatever works. Your attacker won’t hold back…neither should you. Hope to see you in class.