Respect. Can you be too polite?!

In Discipline, Kids Martial Arts Classes, Leadership by Don Alley

During the month of May, the life skill that we taught and discussed in each of our family martial arts classes was on “respect.” So imagine my delight when I was out shopping last month, and after making small-talk, the gentleman taking my order looked at me inquisitively and said, “You’re too polite.”

HA! “What, would you prefer that I be rude to you and call you names?”

He chuckled and said, “It’s just that no one has ever used so many kind and polite words to me during one exchange, ever.” He asked me if I was military, and I told him no, but that I had grown up taking martial arts, and my instructor ingrained in me that that is how you speak to everyone around you. I also explained that I, too, was a martial arts instructor, and that I strive to be the example for my students in Ashburn.

As a martial arts instructor, I feel like it is my obligation to not only teach good martial arts and instill the valuable life skills in my students that were instilled in me, but also demonstrate them at a high level. We must be examples.

As adults, if we want our kids to work hard, they must see us work hard.

If we want our kids to be kind and polite, they need to see us treat service people with patience and consideration.

If we want the children around us to be disciplined, they must see that example from us.

Behavior and character is taught, but it’s also caught. What you DO will speak volumes more than what you say.

I was deeply honored by this compliment, and only share it here as a way of reminding all of us to be the example of what we want to see in the world. Martial arts is such an empowering discipline to learn, so whether you enroll at Super Kicks Karate in Ashburn, or you take your family somewhere else, give them the gift of learning a skill set that will take them much farther than just self defense.

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Don Alley
Don Alley is the owner and chief instructor at Super Kicks Karate in Ashburn and Leesburg, and has been training in the martial arts for 28 years. He is currently a 6th degree black belt, and has dedicated the entirety of his adult life to teaching children and families martial arts. He is also the owner of Center Stage Preschool, a Montessori-based, performing arts preschool; and co-founder of Testudo Addiction Recovery, a non-profit organization serving families in the Northern Virginia area.